Living a Half-Life Part 3

           Yoko Ono, Half-a-Room,1967


“Change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and gorgeous at the end.”
                                                           -  Robin Sharma

 

Now that we have looked at our primary relationship and identified those elements that do not support a sense of ‘wholeness’, let’s consider making some positive changes.  For most of us, change can feel overwhelming.  It helps to break it down into small, manageable steps.  Rather than delving into an interest/activity that we have never tried before, it might be helpful to consider something we already have knowledge of or have tried in the past.  It is important to keep in mind that the goal is not to be great at the activity, but to know that we are taking an active role in regaining our selfhood. 

Here is an example of how we might break down the goal of joining an aerobics/art/academic class:

1^st step- Do research to locate a class that works with your schedule/level of experience.

2^nd step- Write down any questions, concerns related to the class.

3^rd step- Make contact with a person.  Telephone or email the person most able to answer/address questions, concerns.

4^th step- Sleep on it.  Let your mind process the information gathered before making a decision for or against.

5^th step- If you decide to go ahead with the goal, obtain any equipment/supplies needed or anything that might help you to feel more comfortable in the situation.

6^th step- Choose a start date and mark it on a calendar or event planner.

7^th step- If possible, identify someone you trust who is supportive and non-judgemental and let him/her know of your start date.  This is someone who will hold you accountable for your decision, but not ‘beat’ you up emotionally if you are unable to follow through.

Important reminders:

At any point in the process, we can pause and decide whether we are ready to go on to the next step.

If we seem to be procrastinating or stuck on a particular step, we can break down that particular step even further. 

May we find the motivation and courage to take a small step toward regaining our selfhood and experiencing a sense of 'wholeness'.